10 May Portrait of a beautiful person | Part C’
They never engage in useless fighting. They are not band-wagoners, jumping on various causes as a way of bringing importance to themselves. If fighting will help bring about change, then they will fight but never will they find it necessary to fight uselessly. They are not martyrs. They are doers. They are also helpers. They are almost always engaged in work that will make other people’s lives more pleasant or tolerable. They are warriors on the forefront of social change, and yet they don’t take their struggles to bed with them every night as a breeding ground for ulcers, heart disease and other physical disorders. They are incapable of stereotyping. They often don’t even notice the physical differences in people, including racial, ethnic, size and sexual. They are not surface people, judging others by their looks. While they may appear to be hedonistic and selfish, they spend vast amounts of time in the service of others. Why? Because they like it that way.
These are not sickly people. They don’t believe in being immobilized by colds and headaches. They believe in their ability to rid themselves of such maladies, and they never go around telling others how bad they feel, how tired they are, or what diseases are currently infecting their bodies. They treat their bodies well. They like themselves, and consequently they eat well, exercise regularly (as a way of living) and refuse to experience most of the infirmities that render many people helpless for various periods of time. They like to live well, and they do.
Another hallmark of these fully functioning individuals is honesty. They are not evasive with their responses, nor do they pretend or lie about anything. They see lying as a distortion of their own reality, and they will not participate in self-delusional behavior. While they are private people they will also avoid having to distort to protect others. They know that they are in charge of their own world, and that others are as well. Thus, they will behave in ways that will often be perceived as cruel but in fact they are simply allowing others to make their own decisions. They deal effectively with what is, rather than what they would like to be.
These people don’t blame. They are internal in their personality orientation, and they refuse to ascribe responsibility to others for what they are. Similarly, they will not spend a great deal of time talking about others and focusing on what someone else has done or failed to do. They do not talk about people, they talk with them. They do not blame others, they help others and themselves to assign responsibility where it belongs. They are not gossips or spreaders of evil information. They are so busy being effective in their own lives that they have no time for the petty connivances that occupy many people’s lives. Doers do. Critics blame and complain.
These individuals have little concern with order, organization, or systems in their lives. They have self-discipline but no need to have things and people fit into their own perceptions of how everything ought to be. They have no oughts for others. They see everyone as having choices, and those petty things thatdrive others insane are simply the results of someone else’s decision. They do not see the world as having to be any special way. They have no preoccupation with cleanliness or orderliness. They exist in a functional way, and if everything isn’t fitting in as they would prefer, they find that all right too. Organization then, for these people, is simply a useful means rather than an end in itself. Because of this lack of organizational neurosis, they are creative. They attack any concern in their own unique way, be it making a bowl of soup, writing a report, or mowing the grass. They apply their own imagination to the act, and the result is a creative approach to everything. They don’t have to do it a certain way. They don’t consult manuals or ask experts; they simply attack the problem as they see fit. This is creativity, and without exception, they have it.
YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONES
WAYNE W. DYER