08 Nov Learning to live with and love others requires skills delicate and studied (LEO BUSCAGLIA)
In fact, those who appear to have succeeded in having come to terms with life have seemed to expect little more. As Anne Morrow Lindbergh has written:
When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity — in freedom.
This is not an easy task. Learning to live with and love others requires skills as delicate and studied as those of the surgeon, the master builder and the gourmet cook, none of whom would dream of practicing each profession without first acquiring the necessary knowledge. Still, we fragile, ill-equipped humans plow ahead, forming friendships, marrying, raising families with few or no actual resources at hand to meet the overwhelming demands. It is no surprise, therefore, that relationships which often begin with joyous wide-eyed naiveté too often end in disillusionment, bitterness and despair. The initial aura of magic seems to fade somewhere in the day-to-night processes of existence.
Loving Each Other
Leo Buscaglia
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