24 Sep And friendship needs no marriage because friendship is far higher. (OSHO)
As you go through a few relationships you start becoming aware of what kind of woman, what kind of man is going to be a friend to you – not a master, not a slave. And friendship needs no marriage because friendship is far higher.
I am a realist. I don’t have any ideal. To me, to understand reality and to go with reality is the only right way for any intelligent man or woman.
It simply needs a little understanding.
You know perfectly well that howsoever beautiful a man or woman might be, she starts becoming heavy on your nerves sooner or later. Because the same geography, the same topography, the same landscape….
Man’s mind is not made for monotony; neither it is made for monogamy. It is absolutely natural to ask for variety. And it is not against your love.
The idea of jealousy will disappear – you both are free, and you are not hiding anything.
Giving freedom is a joy, having freedom is a joy.
If you understand yourself, you will be able to understand your wife too.
Don’t you have other women in your dreams? In fact, to see your own wife in a dream is a rare phenomenon. People never see their wives or their husbands in their dreams. They have seen enough of them! Now even in the night, even in the dream, no freedom….
You should understand that somehow we have made a wrong society, a society which is not according to human nature.
The desire for variety is an essential quality in anyone who is intelligent.
The more intelligent you are the more variety you would like – there is some relationship between intelligence and variety.
A buffalo is satisfied with one kind of grass; for her whole life she will not touch another kind of grass.
Idiots don’t want to change anything.
They are afraid of change because any change means you will have to learn something again. The idiot wants to learn something once and remain with it his whole life. It may be a machine, it may be a wife, it may be a husband – it does not matter.
You have known one woman, you know her nagging, you have become accustomed…sometimes not only accustomed, you have become addicted too.
If suddenly your woman does not nag you, you will not be able to sleep that night – what happened? What has gone wrong?
Two persons living together in love should make it a point that their relationship is continuously growing, bringing more flowers every season, creating more joys.
Just sitting together silently is enough….
But all this is possible only if we drop the old idea of marriage.
More than friendship is unnatural. And if marriage is stamped by the court, is killed under that stamp in the court…. You cannot bring love under the rule of law.
Love is the ultimate law.
You just have to discover its beauties, its treasures.
No university teaches that love is an art and that life is not already given to you; that you have to learn from scratch.
And it is good that we have to discover by our own hands every treasure that is hidden in life…and love is one of the greatest treasures in existence.
But instead of becoming fellow travelers in search of love, beauty and truth, people are wasting their time in fighting, in jealousy.
Just become a little alert and start the change from your side – don’t expect it from the other side. It will begin from the other side too.
Jealousy
OSHO
