19 Nov The wife says, “Darling”, but behind the word darling are dresses; she is thinking about them (OSHO)
One should not act or speak as if he were asleep.
This is the only key.
The waking have one world in common; sleepers have each a private world of his own.
Dreams are private, absolutely private! Nobody can enter into your dream. You cannot share a dream with your beloved. Husbands and wives, they sleep on one bed but dream separately.
It is impossible to share a dream because it is nothing.
How can you share a nothing? Just like a bubble, it is absolutely nonexistential.
You cannot share it, you have to dream alone.
That’s why, because of sleepers, so many sleepers, there exist so many worlds. You have your own world; if you are asleep you live enclosed in your own thoughts, concepts, dreams, desires. Whenever you meet another, two worlds clash; worlds in collision — this is what the situation is.
Look at a husband and a wife talking; they are not talking at all. The husband is thinking about the office, the salary; the wife is thinking about her dresses for Christmas. Inside they have their own private worlds, but their private worlds meet somewhere — clash rather — because the wife’s dresses will depend on the salary of the husband, and the husband’s salary has to provide for the wife’s dresses.
The wife says, “Darling”, but behind the word darling are dresses; she is thinking about them. The “darling” doesn’t mean that which is written in the dictionary, because every time a woman says “darling” this is now just a facade and the husband immediately becomes afraid. He does not show it, of course, because when someone says “darling” you cannot show it. He says, “What is it, dear? How are you?” But he is afraid because he is thinking of his salary, and he knows Christmas is coming and there is danger.
Mulla Nasruddin’s wife was saying to him, “What has happened? Lately I even cry and weep and tears roll down my face and you don’t even ask, ‘Why are you weeping?'”
Nasruddin said, “Enough is enough! — it costs too much to ask. And in the past I have committed that mistake so many times, because those tears are not just tears — dresses, a new house, new furniture, a new car, many things are hidden behind those tears. Those tears are just a start.”
No dialogue is possible because there are two private worlds inside. Only conflict is possible.
Dreams are private, truth is not private.
Truth cannot be private.
Truth cannot be mine or yours
Awareness: The Key to Living in Balance
OSHO
