“And if you can’t help them at least don’t hurt them.” (LEO BUSCAGLIA)

“And if you can’t help them at least don’t hurt them.” (LEO BUSCAGLIA)

Togetherness. From “I” and “me” to “us” and we. Your relationships will be as vital and alive as you are. If you re dead, your relationship is dead. And if your relationships are boring and inadequate, it’s because you are boring and inadequate. Liven yourself up! Be aware that the world and the people in it are not created solely for you. Try making someone else comfortable. Assume that people are good until you actually and specifically learn differently. And even then, know that they have potential for change and that you can help them out. Practice using and thinking “us” and “we” rather than “I” and “me.” Love many things intensely because the measure of you as a lover is how deeply you love how much. Remember that all things change, especially human relationships, and to maintain them, we must change with them. Make the change in growth. Make sure that you’re constantly growing together but separately. Seek healthy people in your life who still remember how to laugh, how to love and how to cry. Remember that misery doesn’t only love company, it demands it. Have none of it.


And lastly, I heard the Dalai Lama of Tibet last year. One of the things that he said was so poignant. He said, “We live very close together. So, our prime purpose in life is to help others.” Then he sort of smiled and said, “And if you can’t help them at least don’t hurt them.” If each of us promised ourselves that in terms of our human relationships and our togetherness, we were dedicated to the process of helping each other to grow, and that if we couldn’t do that, we were at least not going to hurt each other, what a magical thing that would be.



Living, Loving & Learning
Leo Buscaglia


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