13 Nov Life as a romance (DON MIGUEL RUIZ)
W HAT IS THE BEST WAY TO WRITE YOUR LIFE story? There is only one way, and that way is with love. Love is the material I use towrite my story because love comes directly from my integrity, from what I really am. I love the main character of my story, and the main character loves and enjoys every secondary character. I am not afraid to tell you, “I love you.” Your mind may say, “How can you love me when you don’teven know me?” I don’t need to know you. I don’t need to justify my love. I love you because this is my pleasure. Love coming out of me makesme happy, and it’s not important if you reject me because I don’t reject myself.
In my story, I live in an ongoing romance, and everything is beautiful for me.To live in love is to be alive again. It is to return to your integrity, to what you were before knowledge. When you recover your integrity, youalways follow love. You live your life as an eternal romance because when you love yourself, it is easy to love everybody else. You feel so good just being by yourself, and when you gather with other people, it’s because you want to share your happiness. You love so much that you don’tneed anybody’s love to make you happy. But this doesn’t mean that you don’t accept love. Of course you accept love. You accept good food,good wine, good music, why not good love?If you can see yourself as an artist, and you can see that your life is your own creation, then why not create the most beautiful story for yourself?It’s your story, and it’s just a choice. You can write a story based on love and romance, but that love has to begin with yourself. I suggest that youstart a brand-new relationship between you and yourself. You can have the most wonderful, romantic love relationship, and the way to have it is bychanging your agreements.One agreement you can make is to treat yourself with respect.
Introduce the agreement of self-respect, and tell the voice in your head, “It’s time for us to respect each other.” Many of the judgments will end there, and most of the self-rejection will end there, too.
Then you can allow the voice to talk, but the dialogue will be much better. You will have all of these great ideas, these great dialogues in your head, and when you express themto other people, they will love what you are saying. You will find yourself smiling and having fun, even when you are just by yourself.You can see why the relationship with yourself is so important. When you have conflict with yourself, when you don’t like yourself, or even worse,when you hate yourself, the internal dialogue is contaminated with poison, and that is the way you talk to yourself. When you love yourself, even if the voice of knowledge is in your head, it is nice to you. When you love yourself, when you are kind to yourself, that is a good relationship withyourself. Then every relationship you have will improve, but it always begins with yourself.
How can we expect to be kind when we speak with other people if we are not kind to ourselves?
THE VOICE OF KNOWLEDGE
DON MIGUEL RUIZ
