Trust\u201d is believing in the other party with conditions. For example, when one borrows
\nmoney from a bank. It goes without
\nsaying that the bank will not lend you
\nmoney unconditionally. They will ask
\nfor some kind of collateral, such as
\nreal estate or a guarantor, and give you
\na loan that corresponds to the value of
\nthat. And they\u2019ll slap on the interest
\ntoo. This is an attitude of \u201cwe\u2019ll lend to
\nyou because we believe in the value of
\nthe collateral you\u2019ve given us,\u201d not one
\nof \u201cwe\u2019ll lend to you because we believe in you.\u201d In other words, they
\nare not believing in \u201cthat person,\u201d they
\nare believing in the \u201cconditions\u201d of
\nthat person.<\/p>\n
Trust is doing without any set
\nconditions whatsoever when believing
\nin others. Even though one might not
\nhave sufficient grounds for believing,
\none believes. One believes uncondi-
\ntionally without concerning oneself
\nwith such things as collateral. That is
\n\u201cconfidence.\u201d Instead of believing in
\nthe \u201cconditions\u201d of that person, one believes in \u201cthat person.\u201d You could
\neven say that one focuses not on
\nmaterial worth, but on human worth. it is also to believe in
\n\u201coneself who believes in that person.\u201d
\nBecause how can one ask for anything
\nlike collateral if one does not have
\nconfidence in one\u2019s own judgment? It
\nis a confidence in others that cannot
\nexist without self-confidence.<\/p>\n
The life tasks of work,
\nfriendship, and love that Adler up-
\nholds are delineated by the distance
\nand depth of our interpersonal relationships.<\/p>\n
Right. Work relation-
\nships are relationships of \u201ctrust,\u201d and
\nfriend relationships are relationships
\nof \u201cconfidence.\u201d<\/p>\n
Work relationships are
\ncondition-based relationships that involve either some vested interest, or
\nexternal factors\u2014cooperating with
\nsomeone because we happen to be at
\nthe same company, for example. Or
\nthere\u2019s a person whose personality
\nyou don\u2019t like, but he\u2019s someone you
\ndo business with, so you maintain and
\npromote the relationship. But you
\nhave no intention of maintaining that
\nrelationship away from work. This is
\ntruly a relationship of \u201ctrust\u201d that is
\nformed as a result of the vested inter-
\nest that is your work. Regardless of
\nyour individual preferences, you have
\nto form that relationship.
\nOn the other hand, in friendship, there is no \u201creason to befriend this
\nperson.\u201d It is not a vested interest, and
\nneither is it a relationship that is com-
\npelled by external factors. It is purely a
\nrelationship formed out of the intrin-
\nsic motivation that \u201cI like this person.\u201d
\nTo borrow the phrase you used earlier,
\none is believing in \u201cthat person,\u201d not
\nin the \u201cconditions\u201d of that person.
\nClearly, friendship is a relationship of
\n\u201cconfidence.\u201d<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
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