Just imagine you\u2019re four years old, and someone makes the following
\nproposal: If you\u2019ll wait until after he runs an errand, you can have two
\nmarshmallows for a treat. If you can\u2019t wait until then, you can have
\nonly one\u2014but you can have it right now. It is a challenge sure to try
\nthe soul of any four-year-old, a microcosm of the eternal battle
\nbetween impulse and restraint, id and ego, desire and self-control,
\ngratification and delay. Which of these choices a child makes is a
\ntelling test; it offers a quick reading not just of character, but of the
\ntrajectory that child will probably take through life.<\/p>\n
There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than
\nresisting impulse. It is the root of all emotional self-control, since all
\nemotions, by their very nature, lead to one or another impulse to act.
\nThe root meaning of the word emotion, remember, is \u201cto move.\u201d The
\ncapacity to resist that impulse to act, to squelch the incipient
\nmovement, most likely translates at the level of brain function into
\ninhibition of limbic signals to the motor cortex, though such an
\ninterpretation must remain speculative for now.<\/p>\n
At any rate, a remarkable study in which the marshmallow
\nchallenge was posed to four-year-olds shows just how fundamental is
\nthe ability to restrain the emotions and so delay impulse. Begun by
\npsychologist Walter Mischel during the 1960s at a preschool on the
\nStanford University campus and involving mainly children of Stanford
\nfaculty, graduate students, and other employees, the study tracked
\ndown the four-year-olds as they were graduating from high school.7
\nSome four-year-olds were able to wait what must surely have
\nseemed an endless fifteen to twenty minutes for the experimenter to
\nreturn. To sustain themselves in their struggle they covered their eyes
\nso they wouldn\u2019t have to stare at temptation, or rested their heads in
\ntheir arms, talked to themselves, sang, played games with their hands
\nand feet, even tried to go to sleep. These plucky preschoolers got the
\ntwo-marshmallow reward. But others, more impulsive, grabbed the
\none marshmallow, almost always within seconds of the experimenter\u2019s
\nleaving the room on his \u201cerrand.\u201d<\/p>\n
The diagnostic power of how this moment of impulse was handled
\nbecame clear some twelve to fourteen years later, when these same
\nchildren were tracked down as adolescents. The emotional and social
\ndifference between the grab-the-marshmallow preschoolers and their
\ngratification-delaying peers was dramatic. Those who had resisted
\ntemptation at four were now, as adolescents, more socially competent:
\npersonally effective, self-assertive, and better able to cope with the
\nfrustrations of life. They were less likely to go to pieces, freeze, or
\nregress under stress, or become rattled and disorganized when
\npressured; they embraced challenges and pursued them instead of
\ngiving up even in the face of difficulties; they were self-reliant and
\nconfident, trustworthy and dependable; and they took initiative and
\nplunged into projects. And, more than a decade later, they were still
\nable to delay gratification in pursuit of their goals.<\/p>\n
The third or so who grabbed for the marshmallow, however, tended
\nto have fewer of these qualities, and shared instead a relatively more
\ntroubled psychological portrait. In adolescence they were more likely
\nto be seen as shying away from social contacts; to be stubborn and
\nindecisive; to be easily upset by frustrations; to think of themselves as
\n\u201cbad\u201d or unworthy; to regress or become immobilized by stress; to be
\nmistrustful and resentful about not \u201cgetting enough\u201d; to be prone to
\njealousy and envy; to overreact to irritations with a sharp temper, so
\nprovoking arguments and fights. And, after all those years, they still
\nwere unable to put off gratification.<\/p>\n
What shows up in a small way early in life blossoms into a wide
\nrange of social and emotional competences as life goes on. The
\ncapacity to impose a delay on impulse is at the root of a plethora of
\nefforts, from staying on a diet to pursuing a medical degree. Some
\nchildren, even at four, had mastered the basics: they were able to read
\nthe social situation as one where delay was beneficial, to pry their
\nattention from focusing on the temptation at hand, and to distract
\nthemselves while maintaining the necessary perseverance toward their
\ngoal\u2014the two marshmallows.<\/p>\n
Even more surprising, when the tested children were evaluated
\nagain as they were finishing high school, those who had waited
\npatiently at four were far superior as students to those who had acted
\non whim. According to their parents\u2019 evaluations, they were more
\nacademically competent: better able to put their ideas into words, to
\nuse and respond to reason, to concentrate, to make plans and follow
\nthrough on them, and more eager to learn. Most astonishingly, they
\nhad dramatically higher scores on their SAT tests. The third of
\nchildren who at four grabbed for the marshmallow most eagerly had
\nan average verbal score of 524 and quantitative (or \u201cmath\u201d) score of
\n528; the third who waited longest had average scores of 610 and 652,
\nrespectively\u2014a 210-point difference in total score.<\/p>\n
At age four, how children do on this test of delay of gratification is
\ntwice as powerful a predictor of what their SAT scores will be as is IQ
\nat age four; IQ becomes a stronger predictor of SAT only after
\nchildren learn to read.9 This suggests that the ability to delay
\ngratification contributes powerfully to intellectual potential quite
\napart from IQ itself. (Poor impulse control in childhood is also a
\npowerful predictor of later delinquency, again more so than IQ.10) As
\nwe shall see in Part Five, while some argue that IQ cannot be changed
\nand so represents an unbendable limitation on a child\u2019s life potential,
\nthere is ample evidence that emotional skills such as impulse control
\nand accurately reading a social situation can be learned.<\/p>\n
What Walter Mischel, who did the study, describes with the rather
\ninfelicitous phrase \u201cgoal-directed self-imposed delay of gratification\u201d
\nis perhaps the essence of emotional self-regulation: the ability to deny
\nimpulse in the service of a goal, whether it be building a business,
\nsolving an algebraic equation, or pursuing the Stanley Cup. His
\nfinding underscores the role of emotional intelligence as a metaability, determining how well or how poorly people are able to use
\ntheir other mental capacities<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
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