Dalai Lama: When a fear or frustration comes, we have to think, what is causing it? In most cases, fear is simply a mental projection. When I was young and living in the Potala, there was an area that was very dark, and there were stories about ghosts there. So when I was passing through this area, I would
\nfeel something. This was completely a mental projection.<\/p>\n
So you have to analyze the causes of the fear. With
\nfrustration, often you see someone, and you have a mental projection even when his or her face is neutral. Similarly, when you see someone\u2019s actions, you have a mental projection even when their behavior is neutral. So you have to ask yourself if your frustration is based on something real. Even if
\nsomeone criticizes you or attacks you, then you have to think: Why did this happen? This person is not your enemy from birth. Certain circumstances caused the person to be negative toward you. There may be many causes, but usually your own attitude is an important contributing factor that cannot be ignored. You realize that this happened because you have done something in the past that this person didn\u2019t like. So then when you realize your own part in the other person\u2019s criticizing or attacking you,the intensity of your frustration and anger automatically reduces. Then you also realize that basic human nature is good, is compassionate, and that the person does not want to harm you. So therefore you see their emotion is due to some misunderstanding or misinformation. You see that this person\u2019s actions are due to their own destructive emotions. You can develop a sense of concern, compassion, even feel sorry for their pain and suffering: How sad that this person is out of control, or having such a negative feeling. Instead of frustration and anger you feel sorry for the other person and concern for them.\u201d<\/p>\n
The Archbishop: \u201cI think it takes time to learn to be laid-back,\u201d he continued. \u201cYou know, it\u2019s not something that just comes ready-made for you. No one ought to feel annoyed with themselves. It just adds to the frustration. I mean, we are human beings, fallible human beings. And as the Dalai Lama points out, there was a time . . . I mean, we see him serene and calm. Yet there were times when he, too, felt annoyed and perhaps there still are. It\u2019s like muscles that have to be exercised to be strong.
\nSometimes we get too angry with ourselves thinking that we ought to be perfect from the word go. But this being on earth is a time for us to learn to be good, to learn to be more loving, to learn to be more compassionate. And you learn, not theoretically.\u201d The Archbishop was pointing his index fingers at his head. \u201cYou learn when something happens that tests you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWe get very angry with ourselves. We think we ought to be supermen and superwomen from the start. The Dalai Lama\u2019s serenity didn\u2019t come fully formed. It was through the practice of prayer and
\nmeditation that the gentleness, the compassion grew, his being patient and accepting\u2014within reasonable limits. Accepting circumstances as they are, because if there are circumstances that you
\ncannot change, then it\u2019s no use beating your head against a brick wall; that just gives you a headache. This is a vale of growth and development.\u201d<\/p>\n
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