Almost universally, the kind of performance we give on social media is positive. It\u2019s more \u201cLet me tell you how well things are going. Look how great I am.\u201d It\u2019s rarely the truth: \u201cI\u2019m scared. I\u2019m struggling. I don\u2019t know.\u201d<\/p>\n
At the beginning of any path, we\u2019re excited and nervous. So we seek to comfort ourselves externally instead of inwardly. There\u2019s a weak side to each of us, that\u2014like a trade union\u2014isn\u2019t exactly malicious but at the end of the day still wants get as much public credit and attention as it can for doing the least.<\/p>\n
We seem to think that silence is a sign of weakness. That being ignored is tantamount to death (and for the ego, this is true). So we talk, talk, talk as though our life depends on it.<\/p>\n
In actuality, silence is strength\u2014particularly early on in any journey. As the philosopher (and as it happens, a hater of newspapers and their chatter) Kierkegaard warned, \u201cMere gossip anticipates real talk, and to express what is still in thought weakens action by forestalling it.\u201d<\/p>\n
Even a child knows how to gossip and chatter. Most people are decent at hype and sales. So what is scarce and rare? Silence. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation. Silence is the respite of the confident and the strong.<\/p>\n
Research shows that while goal visualization is important, after a certain point our mind begins to confuse it with actual progress. The same goes for verbalization. Even talking aloud to ourselves while we work through difficult problems has been shown to significantly decrease insight and breakthroughs. After spending so much time thinking, explaining, and talking about a task, we start to feel that we\u2019ve gotten closer to achieving it. Or worse, when things get tough, we feel we can toss the whole project aside because we\u2019ve given it our best try, although of course we haven\u2019t.<\/p>\n
The more difficult the task, the more uncertain the outcome, the more costly talk will be and the farther we run from actual accountability. It\u2019s sapped us of the energy desperately needed to conquer what Steven Pressfield calls the \u201cResistance\u201d\u2014the hurdle that stands between us and creative expression. Success requires a full 100 percent of our effort, and talk flitters part of that effort away before we can use it.<\/p>\n
A lot of us succumb to this temptation\u2014particularly when we feel overwhelmed or stressed or have a lot of work to do. In our building phase, resistance will be a constant source of discomfort. Talking\u2014listening to ourselves talk, performing for an audience\u2014is almost like therapy. I just spent four hours talking about this. Doesn\u2019t that count for something? The answer is no.<\/p>\n
Doing great work is a struggle. It\u2019s draining, it\u2019s demoralizing, it\u2019s frightening\u2014not always, but it can feel that way when we\u2019re deep in the middle of it. We talk to fill the void and the uncertainty. \u201cVoid,\u201d Marlon Brando, a quiet actor if there ever was one, once said, \u201cis terrifying to most people.\u201d It is almost as if we are assaulted by silence or confronted by it, particularly if we\u2019ve allowed our ego to lie to us over the years. Which is so damaging for one reason: the greatest work and art comes from wrestling with the void, facing it instead of scrambling to make it go away. The question is, when faced with your particular challenge\u2014whether it is researching in a new field, starting a business, producing a film, securing a mentor, advancing an important cause\u2014do you seek the respite of talk or do you face the struggle head-on?<\/p>\n
Those who are strong they work quietly in the corner. They turn their inner turmoil into product\u2014and eventually to stillness. They ignore the impulse to seek recognition before they act. They don\u2019t talk much. Or mind the feeling that others, out there in public and enjoying the limelight, are somehow getting the better end of the deal. (They are not.) They\u2019re too busy working to do anything else. When they do talk\u2014it\u2019s earned.<\/p>\n
The only relationship between work and chatter is that one kills the other.<\/p>\n
Let the others slap each other on the back while you\u2019re back in the lab or the gym or pounding the pavement.<\/p>\n
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