Consider this current dream: everything in one, everything or nothing. A single person has to condense the totality of our aspirations, and if he fails to do so, we get rid of him. The madness lies in wanting to reconcile everything, the heart and eroticism, raising children and social success, effervescence and the long term. Our couples are not dying of selfishness and materialism, they’re dying of a fatal heroism, an excessively great conception of themselves.<\/p>\n
This grandiose vision tears them apart the way prisoners are torn by barbed wire. Every woman has to be simultaneously a mother, a whore, a friend, and a fighter, every man has to be a father, a lover, a husband, and a provider: watch out for those who don’t fulfil these conditions!<\/p>\n
To the reasons generally given to explain conjugal unhappiness, we must add another very contemporary toxin: immoderate ambition.<\/p>\n
Couples go aground like an overloaded ship: they try to conform, to remain on the summits of ardour, while at the same time taking care of everyday business.<\/p>\n
Have pity on them!<\/p>\n
A mad Platonism: we are to love love more than the persons themselves, seek it through interchangeable individuals instead of cherishing one individual unlike any other. Slander our current relationships in the name of an imaginary fusion, as if there were no one for whom it is worth giving up our freedom. My hopes are never adequately met, never adequately rewarded, I deserve better.
\nEveryone knows the horrible proverb: the most beautiful woman in the world can give only what she has. But what she has is already so marvellous that one ought to bow down before her to thank her for granting it to us.<\/p>\n
A terrible absurdity: living as a couple has become more difficult to endure since of all its roles it has retained only that of being a model of fulfilment. Because it wants to succeed at any cost, it is consumed with anxiety, fears the law of entropy, the aridity of slack periods.<\/p>\n
The slightest decrease in tension is experienced as a fiasco, a rejection.<\/p>\n
Adoration is put to the test of its own defeat insofar as it is realized, that is, normalized. Valuing frenzy, we put the married couple in danger: the bond literally melts under the empire of fever, the borderlines between the other and the self tend to become blurred. The domestic sphere has become the stake in a titanic battle between the sublimity sought and the trivial felt.<\/p>\n
Passionate love is the love of passion, that is, of torment; it is war, constant demand, the reign of the highest bidder, a face-to-face encounter forever. Hardly has the word been uttered than images of squalls, tears, cries, and resounding ecstasies rise up; but if it is to endure, we also need gaiety, regularity, and enthusiasm.
\nIn order to live together, there is no need to adore each other in the canonical sense of the term; it suffices to like each other, to share the same tastes, to seek all the happiness possible in the framework of a harmonious coexistence. If we want it to last, let’s stop subjecting life in common to the despotic law of exuberance.<\/p>\n
There are several, equally legitimate ways of being fond of one another, however much we may otherwise be tempted to judge negatively those that differ from our own.<\/p>\n
This judgement is not always moral; it may also arise from anxiety: what if I made a mistake, what if I made the wrong choice?<\/p>\n
All couples are enigmas for one another, in their failures as in their resurrections.<\/p>\n
Some are too demonstrative and wither away from an excess of symbiosis; some that are less well suited may go on, off kilter, for years; some may be kept going by an unbridled social ambition, some poisonous ones spread destruction and devastation, some friendly ones offer themselves to all their admirers.<\/p>\n
Some grow together and envelop themselves in the joy of their reciprocal inflation; and some, whose generosity flows over their entourage, galvanize.<\/p>\n
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\nPascal Bruckner<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"