If you really love a person, you have to face it yourself. If you don\u2019t face it, that is cowardice.
\nAnd to hide it, you make so much of a tantrum of jealousy that you completely forget that it is only your cowardice
\nWhat was needed was to be very clear whether it is an idea that you love the man, or it is a reality.
\nLove\u2019s basic requirement is: \u201cI accept the other person as he is.\u201d And love never tries to change the person according to one\u2019s own idea of them.
\nYou do not try to cut the person here and there and bring him to size \u2014 which is being done everywhere all over the world.
\nAnd one starts feeling a great wonder: why have poets been writing so many beautiful things about love? \u2014 because nothing seems to happen!
\nIt is only in the poetries.
\nThe reality is that most of the poets have never loved.
\nThey are in love with the idea of love, so they make beautiful poems, beautiful novels. Or perhaps they have loved, but failed so utterly that just to console themselves they create the polar opposite in their poetry.
\nFor example, Leo Tolstoy was tortured by his wife for his whole life, even to the very end.
\nThe last day, she harassed him so much that he left the house at night and went to the station and died there on a bench.
\nHe was a count, and he had immense property and immense land and everything \u2014 but he lived like a poor man.
\nThe wife had control of everything.
\nShe would not allow him even to have a friend, a male friend. She was so jealous that she would not allow him to read or write in front of her. He had to go out in the garden or in the fields to write; all his writing was done outside. Her jealousy was such that\u2026, \u201cWhen I am present you are more interested in your novel. This is an insult to me!\u201d
\nAnd this man has written such beautiful books and such beautiful things about love, that if you didn\u2019t know his life, you could not believe how it is possible. It is a compensation. In life he is missing it; he is putting it in the novels: in the novels he is creating the fantasy he would have liked his life to be, just to forget his life, its ugliness.
\nSo either the poets have never loved and known, have never known the agony of it; or, if they have loved, they have known the agony of it and they wanted to know the ecstasy.
\nSo in their poetry you will find the ecstasy of love. But the truth is that the whole world is tortured unnecessarily.
\nYes, it is cowardice that keeps you in torture. Just face the facts, whether you love a man or not.
\nIf you love, then there are no conditions to be put. If you don\u2019t love, then who are you to put conditions?
\nEither way it is clear.
\nIf you love then there is no question of conditions: you love him as he is.
\nIf you don\u2019t love, then too there is no problem: he is nobody to you; there is no question of putting conditions.
\nHe can do whatsoever he wants to do.
\nBut one has to face one\u2019s feelings in a very sincere and honest way. And that straightforward encounter of one\u2019s feelings immediately shows you the path.
\nLife is not difficult \u2014 we are making it so because we are cowards: we don\u2019t see a thing which we know is there.<\/p>\n
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\nJealousy<\/em><\/strong>
\nOSHO<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n