We had been talking about the need for recognition and affirmation from others, and Jorge had been explaining Maslow’s theory of the hierarchy of necessities. We all need the respect and esteem of those around us to be able to create our own self-esteem. \u00a0Around that time, I was complaining because my parents never really accepted me, because my friends didn’t really like me, and because my efforts at work went without recognition. When – There’s an old story – said The Fat Man as he handed me some mat\u00e9 leaves and a cup of steaming water – about a young man who went to see an old wise man for help. \u00a0His problem reminds me of yours.<\/p>\n
There’s an old story about a young man who went to see an old wise man for help.
\nI’m here, sir, because I feel so small that I have no desire to do anything. \u00a0They tell me I’m useless, that I don’t do anything well, and that I’m lazy and stupid. \u00a0How can I improve myself? What can I do to get better?
\nWithout looking at him, the wise man said:
\n– I’m very sorry, young man. \u00a0I can’t help you, I must solve a problem of my own first. \u00a0Maybe then…
\n– And after a long pause he added – If you’d like to help me, I could solve my problem more quickly and then… maybe I can help you.
\n– Yyy … yes, sir. – he murmured, feeling once again degraded, his needs subordinated to those of the wise man.
\n– Good, then – the wise man replied. \u00a0He removed a ring from the pinkie finger of his left hand, and passing it to the young man he said – Take that horse outside and ride to the town markets. \u00a0I need to sell this ring in order to pay a debt I owe. \u00a0It’s very important that you get the best possible price, absolutely nothing less than one gold coin. \u00a0Go and come back with the money as soon as you can.
\nThe young man took the ring and went. \u00a0As soon as he reached the markets, he started showing the ring to the merchants. \u00a0They all seemed interested until he told them the price he wanted.
\nWhen he mentioned the gold coin, some laughed, others gave him strange looks. \u00a0Only one old man was kind enough to explain to him that one gold coin was too much for the ring. \u00a0He offered him him a silver coin and a jar full of copper, but the young man rejected the offer following the instructions given to him not to accept less than one gold coin.
\nHaving made more than 100 offers, having been rejected by every merchant in the market, he got on his horse and rode back.
\nHe wanted desperately to have a gold coin to give to the wise man, so that the wise man could help him and advise him.
\nHe entered the house.
\n– Sir -he said – I’m sorry. \u00a0You asked me to do something impossible. \u00a0Maybe I could have gotten two or three silver coins for that ring, but I just can’t trick any body into giving me more than its worth.
\n– The thing that you have just said is very important my young friend. – he replied with a smile – First, we’ve got to know the true value of the ring! \u00a0Get back on that horse and go to see the jewelry maker. \u00a0Who could possibly know better than he? \u00a0Tell him that you’d like to sell the ring and ask him how much he’ll give you for it. \u00a0But no matter what he offers you — do not sell the ring. \u00a0Bring it back here.
\nThe young man got on his horse and set off.
\nBy candlelight, the jewelry maker inspected the ring. \u00a0He used a magnifying glass and weighed it on a scale, and after a moment he said:
\nTell the old man that if he needs to sell it immediately, I can’t give him more than 58 gold coins. \u00a0Got it, sprout?
\n– 58 gold coins? \u00a0he said in astonishment.
\n– Yeah. – If he has more time, he can probably find a buyer at 70 coins. Otherwise…
\nThe young man took the ring and got up and left. \u00a0He was so excited that he galloped the horse all the way back.
\n– Sit down. – said the wise man, as his young page burst through the door in excitement.<\/p>\n
He listened to the young man’s story, and then said
\n– You are just like this ring: a unique and valuable jewel. \u00a0The only person who can understand your true value is an expert. \u00a0Why do you go around expecting that anyone you meet on the street knows your true value.
\nAnd with this, he put the ring back on the pinkie finger of his left hand.<\/p>\n
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\nJorge Bucay<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"